I posted a simple status update on my facebook page that expressed that I dont like November because its a sad month for me. Its not the worst time of year for me, but it has memories of Genesis. I had someone reply to it (yes a blm) telling me (in short) that I should be thankful for having my rainbows. I know she meant well...or at least I hope she did, but comments like that get to me.
Why cant I express that I miss Genesis without someone telling me to be thankful for my rainbows? Who ever said I was NOT thankful for them? They are the reason I am here today and they are my life and I love them with everything I have to give. But I am allowed to miss Genesis too. I love all my kids exactly the same. I post photos on my facebook page all the time of my rainbows, hundreds of photos, just as I post pictures of things that remind me of Genesis. I dont get how you would think Im not thankful for my living children. No matter how much I love my rainbows, no matter how thankful I am for them, no matter how many more living children I may go on to have and no matter how much time passes... I WILL ALWAYS LOVE AND MISS GENESIS. PERIOD. My pain isnt a constant, everyday pain that I felt right after she died. As I have said many times before, my grief is always changing. But there will always be times during the year that will remind me even more of her and I will miss her. Im allowed to do that. And missing her is ok.
UPDATE: Many of my BLM friends came to my rescue on my status and backed me up saying I shouldnt be made to feel bad that I miss Genesis. The person who posted that comments of course re commented saying that she was misunderstood and thats not what she meant. I know, many of the things that hurt us are well meant. And when it comes to a BLM you never know what is the right thing to say because what is ok with one BLM may be hurtful to the next.