For example... tonight I was watching the movie Tarzan with my rainbows. In the beginning of the movie a mama ape, Kala, loses her baby. Sabor, the jaguar, killed her baby. The movie briefly shows Kala sad and upset, not so much the dad, Kerchak. They never even mention this lost baby's name. Kerchak only speaks of the baby once saying "It will never replace the one we lost" referring to Tarzan. And with that the baby is never mentioned again nor are there anymore scenes that show this mother is still in mourning.
That is what the world expects of us. They even put it in a Disney movie. Sure... it makes for a good movie, and in the end they all live happily ever after and when you leave the movie theatre or when you are done watching the movie do you think its made the audience think once of the baby that died? nope. That is exactly what people expect of us. And that is just plane ridiculous. Our lives are not a movie, there is no happily ever after. No matter how many rainbows we may have or how many "good" things may happen to us in life, we will NOT have that happily ever after. Ever. Our lives are forever change, forever missing a literal piece of ourselves.
If someone you knew had to have a leg amputated for whatever reason would you expect that person to forget about it? would you expect them to live and do the things the way they did before? would you pretend they never had a leg in the first place? would you tell them that a prosthetic leg would replace what was lost? if they speak of how they lost their leg or anything related to it would you ignore it? change the subject, pretend it didnt happen? Then why on Earth would people expect such unreasonable things from a BLM? And would you do or say things to make life more difficult and painful for a person like this? Of course not, you would feel like they deserve a break and life should be made easier for them just so everyday wouldn't be a struggle. So then why is BLM the exception? I would have much rather lost a leg than my daughter. But I wasn't given that option. None of us were. So why should I be treated different because you can't see my injury?