Sunday, September 26, 2010

Great Question: "Why do I care?"

A reader asked a good question on my last post. Here is her comment: "sorry, but why do you care how she handles her loss? and why would it be insulting to you? she's not sticking a gun to your head and forcing you to do what she says. why are you taking this so personally? is it because they are famous? obviously, that's the way she's going to deal with it."

It matters to me for the same reasons that it matters to me for Oprah to do a show on pregnancy/infant loss. Not because I want Oprah to grieve differently, but because of the power of celebrity.

Because they are in the public eye and have a huge effect on how the general public sees the subject. I could care less how she deals with her grief, it's different for each person. But to say these statements and have it be a statement representing the general babyloss public is insulting, at least to me.

We all know when celebrities say or do something it's usually just expressing their own feelings. But unfortunately that isn't the way the world sees it. If Britney Spears started shopping at Big Lots on a regular basis and made it public knowledge, you better believe that Big Lots will see many new shoppers. She wouldn't be purposely advertising for Big Lots but anything and everything they do and say is an advertisement.

So when Justine said these comments, non babylost people think this is true for all of us and that it should be like this for all of us BLMs. And if it's not, then we need counseling or we are odd. It's because of statements and actions like these that pregnancy/infant loss is such a taboo subject.


Sare said...

<3 you mama! I'm so proud of you for what you're doing to try to bring public awareness to baby/infant loss. I know it can be frustrating at times like this when people just don't understand & I know a lot of people don't even want to try to understand, thats how painful this is :(
Keep your head held high <3 Ur amazing!
<3 Genesis <3

Lucid Anne said...

Exactly. I also wonder if your friend that posted the comment is walking this path or not...?

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